11 ways to solve rape better than nail polish
The more we depend on women to prevent rape, the easier it is to blame them when it happens to them. Here’s a look at the well-documented ways we can actually stop rape. Maybe it’s time we invest a little more time and resources into implementing them before we send gallons of nail polish to colleges across the country.
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I appreciate what the article is trying to say, but I have huge problems with their gendered terms in this list making it seem like with rape a man is always the rapist and a woman is always the victim.
I was raped by a dfab person who, at the time of the assault, identified as a cis female. Men aren’t the only people who can rape.
My first boyfriend was raped. Not all sexual assault victims are women. Female victims aren’t the only ones experiencing victim blaming.
I’m not saying I disagree with this list at all. It’s just very personally irritated that they make it seem so black and white when it comes to the sex of the rapists and the victims.
No, not all rapists are men and not all victims are women. I’ll even set aside for a moment the fact that nonbinary people experience “corrective rape” and therefore suffer disproportionately high rates of sexual assault when compared to women and especially when compared to men.
But here’s the thing: all rape is a problem, and it should be treated as such.
If you were to begin cleaning a room that was absolutely filthy, would you begin by picking the trash and laundry up off the floor, or by dusting the shelves?
If you were given an assignment at school/work and completed (I’m going to be generous here) 15% of it, would you tell the person who failed/fired you for it, “I appreciate what you’re trying to say, but I have huge issues with the terms you’re using that make it seem like I didn’t do any of the work?”
Most rapists are men, and most victims are women. Taking issue with the idea of focusing first on the largest, most prominent segment of the problem calls into question a person’s motives.
If your issue is with the lack of attention given to male victims, then by all means, make posts about them. I will happily reblog and signal boost them, so long as they support male victims rather than silencing people who speak about female victims.